In Japan, where quite a few marriages are still semi-arranged, Netizens comment on the worst possible matchmaking manners.
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Though today not a norm, formal matchmaking, or omiai, still plays a big role in the making of couples in Japan where forming a family is seen not only as a personal choice but also as a social duty.
This being Japan, however, like everything else traditional matchmaking has been revamped to suit the consumer culture of the 21st century.
The 婚活者, or marriage hunter, now represents a special consumer demographic to his or her self. Special products are being created for the modern marriage hunter like diaries made especially to make notes about one’s progress, and matchmaking companies are becoming more and more competitive in the quest to offer the most innovative services. One such company even offers a “mother’s speed dating service” where mothers of marriage hunters speed date instead of their kids.
Matchmaking is thus a major concern for many young Japanese people, and it is no wonder that one top trending article from Ameblo, one of Japan’s biggest news and blog sites, is about the worst omiai date manners. Here is a translation and some netizen comments.
original article HERE
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Top things guys you meet through your parents or on an omiai do that make you think “NO WAY!”
Euh, no way I would ever go out with him….
The “matchmaking through one’s parents” course offered by Nozze, a big omiai agency, has become a popular topic of conversation. As people are progressively getting married latter, there are fewer people who would consider omiai and it is probably more often the parents rather than the actual people in question who are the most eager for a quick marriage. Because of this, we asked girls about the things that make them think “no way!” when they meet a guy through their parents or on an omiai.
1: It’s obvious from the very sight of him that he has an Oedipus complex
2: He’s a slob when he eats
3: His personality changes when he drinks
4: The only nail that sticks out is the one on his little finger (N.B. to pick his nose or ears. I looked this us, apparently it is a common feature of many Japanese middle aged men.. Ewww GROSS!!)
5: His very demeanor exudes an old-man aura
6: He boorishly heaps seasoning onto his food without testing the taste first
7: He doesn’t even smile once while we’re talking
8: He’s sporting a garishly nouveau rich wrist watch
9: He has a side parting
10: His eyes are always wandering when we’re talking
The top characteristic is “It’s obvious from the very sight of him that he has an Oedipus complex”. There are probably a lot of girls out there who, based on their own experiences, think that every guy has a mother’s complex to some extent but we at least want him to make an effort to hide it on the surface! If he brings up his mother at every topic, he’s clearly displaying his mother complex and there are probably a lot of girls who only see a dark future where “his mom will be more important than me when we get married”.
Making the list closely behind this in second place is “He’s a slob when he eats”. Especially on the first date, we unfortunately have a tendency to make judgments on him or the environment he was brought in up from his sloppy eating. Not only does a sloppy way of eating convey the impression that “he has no manners”, it also leads us to have doubts about his overall cleanliness like “he seems crude” or “his room is probably a mess”. Girls also hate it when his personality changes when he drinks. A bit of talkativeness is okay but if he starts speaking in a loud voice and his tone becomes rough, we start imagining scenarios of domestic violence.
Apart from that, the fact that “the only nail that sticks out is the one on his little finger” cannot escape a woman’s observing eye. There are probably a lot of men who would be shocked that women can actually even notice such a small detail but a lot of women hold back screams when the notice this during an introduction or a matchmaking date. This is probably because they want their dates to try their best and pay attention to every bit of their appearance so that they don’t miss their chance.
Survey from: gooResearch sponsored by NTT Online Marketing Solutions
Date: 10.05.2012 to 10.06.2012
Sample: 1,064 girls
COMMENTS
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のぞみ
The only people who have omiai are past their sell-by dates and can’t get married (LOL) Usually you don’t need to it if you can get married.
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kumanokopupupu
Matchmaking is for people who have both mutually past their sell-by dates
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錆鼠熊
Dunno if people who are sincere but are bad at love maybe turn to matchmaking services. Anyways, there should be a guide or something about the things you do in order to ruin a matchmaking date.
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みきちゃん
I hate people who hate trusting their intuition!
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ルビオン
I don’t get the thing about long pinky nails. What do they think when someone forgets to cut their nails?
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我がの名外狼！嘔吐ん騎士だ！！
the worst is ugly girls with personality!!
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犬田道願
I was Mr. Head-in-the-clouds.
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ガンちゃん
Feels like neither men nor women change.
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クレーガー
Are you past your sell-by date if you resort to matchmaking? lol
Also, is someone who one or two of these things apply to also no good if he does them more other people? lol
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ゆめみるゆめこ
Oedipus complexes are GROSS…. I really don’t get when someone needs to call their mom ….whatever they are doing….
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Halia
Euu! NO WAY NO WAY! I’d run away in disgust. SO GROSS!!
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マリー
I’m one of those people who want to get married for love, but you have a big problem if you think that the only people who go on matchmaking dates are a bit special. A friend of mine went on a matchmaking date with a super hot guy and they got married. Everyone is different.
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ムーチャン
When you reach the point of resorting to matchmaking, you are both in the same boat…
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千石撫子
Dunno what weird kinda people they asked in their survey, but what is the proportion of guys with long pinky nails if that made 4th place on the ranking?!
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ふくふくさん
Another news article insulting this type of people. Why are articles like this allowed to be written when bullying is such a big problem?
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